Where Broken Hearts Can Mend - After Abortion

The Post Abortion Support Group (PAS) is a confidential, nonjudgmental and loving group setting for those seeking emotional and spiritual support and healing following the abortion experience.  In the six weekly sessions, we will cover the various aspects of suppressed emotional pain following abortion including regret, remorse, anger, depression, grief, guilt, shame and self condemnation.  Whether it was last month or 25 years ago, we will embrace God's forgiveness and acceptance and we will learn how to create a new relationship with our past, our baby and our Heavenly Father.

PAS group beginning this week in Indio.  All inquiries and participation held in the strictest confidence.  Contact Lisa at  760-568-2200 or TEXT 760-567-9085 or email answers@choiceline.org for more information.  You will be blessed to be part of this healing group!

There is a time for everything,
a season for every activity
under heaven:
A time to tear down and a
time to rebuild,
A time to weep and a time
to laugh,
A time to mourn and a
time to dance.
A time to be silent and a time to speak.
                                            Ecclesiastes 3:1-7

Is Adoption an Option?

"I have to have an abortion.  I can't even consider adoption.  I can't handle the thought of my baby being out there somewhere."

Sounds a little irrational doesn't it?  It sounds unbelievable that someone would want to abort their baby rather than make an adoption plan, doesn't it?  Why do women abort their babies rather than make an adoption plan?  Are women that cold and callous?  What about the thousands and thousands of couples that can't have their own babies... wouldn't they want their baby to live and be raised in a loving home with a chance for a good life?

The truth is the statement "I can't handle the thought of my baby being out there somewhere" is very very common.  We hear it all the time at the pregnancy center.  Does this mean that mothers would rather have their babies dead?  Does this mean mothers are so selfish that they won't think of making an adoption plan? 

No!!  The truth is that making a decision about an unplanned pregnancy is very very difficult.  I know that anytime I have made a decision quickly or under pressure, it has not usually been a good decision.  So often this is exactly what is going on with young women in crisis pregnancies.  There is sometimes pressure from the father or parents to "get rid of the problem".  Other reasons women consider abortion include financial concerns, other children, no money or job.  Very frequently, the mother is feeling overwhelmed or not feeling well (morning sickness).  One thing is common in most every case... the mother is not feeling supported and cared for. 

Women also do not know much about adoption.  Click the link below for some information that might be helpful if you or someone you know is considering adoption:

Adoption Information

Clearly, there is a lot to think about when you have an unplanned pregnancy.  The most important thing is.... Do not make a quick decision!  Find someone you can talk to about all the options... parenting, abortion and adoption.  To talk to someone confidentially, call 1-888-956-HELP to find a place where you can get the information you need in the area you live. 


He gives strength to the weak.  And he gives power to him who has little strength.   Isaiah 40:29

The Planned Parenthood "Spin Cycle"

It is really hard to read the "spin" in the news about and by Planned Parenthood, the largest abortion provider in the country, and not share the truth that the media doesn't want us to know.


Planned Parenthood is mainly an abortion business with nearly 40% of their revenue coming from abortion.  They provided prenatal care to 7000 women, adoption referrals to only 977 women and performed 332,278 abortions in 2009 (most recent data available).

This means that 97.6% of pregnant women they saw, they performed an abortion on!  If you are paying taxes, you are paying for abortions!  If you find this to be objectionable, contact your local Senators and Representatives and encourage them do defund Planned Parenhood.

Click on the link below for more facts from Carenet:
The Planned Parenthood 'Spin Cycle'

Other things we can do to help women are to pray for an end to abortion, pray for the ministries that are helping women in crisis pregnancy situations, volunteer at your local crisis pregnancy center or pregnancy resource center or donate to your local pro-life pregnancy center.

Let's keep it real!  We need to be willing to speak out when the facts are misrepresented to women who are vunerable and don't have the support system they need.  Women need the truth and they need to know the choices, ALL THE CHOICES, when their lives and the lives of their babies are at stake.

Our Youth are Pro-Life

Our young people are pro-life and America is more pro-life than ever before. Why is this happening?  Young people are learning more about what abortion is and seeing how it has impacted their life or the life of their friends and loved ones.  They want to know all the facts.


They are learning the truth about the unborn.... baby's heart is beating just 20 days after conception..... baby has fingers and toes at 7 weeks.... baby is sucking her thumb at 9 weeks!  Young people are talking to people they know who have had abortions and learning the regret and hurt they carry with them.

10 week ultrasound

Education is key.  When abortion clinics tell our youth "it is nothing" or baby is only "products of conception" or "just a lump of cells", they are seeking answers.  It is easier than ever for young people to research and find information about baby's development and see ultrasounds that show baby's heart beating and development.


Even the liberal Washington Post wrote about the youth of America after attending a pro-life rally the writer thought would be "irrelevant".  Check this out...  http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2010/01/23/AR2010012302400.html


Another group is gaining momentum on high school and college campuses all across the US called Students for Life of America.  Their stated goal is "to end abortion in our lifetime, and we plan to do that by identifying, educating, and activating this generation of young people."   For more information or to start a local group of your own check out http://studentsforlife.org/  


The truth is very powerful.  Seeing is believing!


Have a question about pregnancy, abortion, STDs or sex? Need help? Any age, confidential.

Email birdsbeestalk@gmail.com or TEXT 760-574-5040.

Why Blog?

I am a newbie in the "blog circuit".  I have started to blog a few times over the years but got sidetracked.  I didn't totally "get it".  Why do people blog?  Who wants to read their blogs?  Are there good reasons to blog?  Would I seem to be bloviating about something people don't really want to read?  I am not blogging about an easy issue. The issue of abortion is an issue that draws a lot of controversary as we have all seen in the headlines recently and really since 1973 when Roe vs. Wade made it legal to abort babies.

Then it occured to me!  People don't HAVE to read my blog unless they want to.  That is the GREAT thing about blogs!  On Facebook I have a variety of friends from a variety of places with a variety of opinions and beliefs.  I don't always agree with their views and they don't always agree with mine.  That doesn't make their impact in my life or our friendship or the history we have shared any less. We just have differing views based on where we have been, what our knowledge is of any particular subject, our values and our life experiences.  When we post on Facebook, our friends really have no choice when it comes to reading our comments.  It is hard to avoid others comments since they are in your feed.  A blog link gives us all a choice and we all need lots of choices right?  :)

Facebook is great for updating your daily status and keep in touch on how we are doing day to day.  I think when it comes to sharing our hearts, blogs provide a great platform.  People have a choice to click or not to click on a blog link.  That's the way it should be!

My blog is about life issues. Abortion breaks God's heart and it breaks mine.  I am not employed in "the industry".  I don't benefit financially in any way from my ministry to women.   I am a volunteer.  I think this gives me a different perspective.  I want to keep it real and relevant.  I don't like ranting but I have to admit I am tempted when I see false information and nonsense being sold to the American people.  Being real about what is happening everyday on the front lines where real people face real challenges and are looking for help and answers is what it is all about!  The issues are not simple and there is so much at stake!

SEX Time Bomb

One of the frightening things we see at our pregnancy center is young people having sex with multiple partners, in and out of relationships and "hookups".  The health of our young people is in real jeopardy and kids, in general, are unaware or in denial. 

"That can't happen to me!  Other people get Herpes and HIV and Chlamydia or any of the over 50 sexually contracted diseases, right?"

"I have only had a few relationships and I know that I couldn't have an STD, right?"


"He told me he was never with anybody else and I believe him!" 

Are you or will you be infected by an STD?  Sexually transmitted diseases (STD's) are spreading like wildfire.  Even more scary... most STDs can be "silent", causing no noticeable symptoms.  These asymptomatic infections can be diagnosed only through testing. 

                                                               FACTS:

Herpes 1 Virus

• Each year, one in four teens contracts an STD.
• One in two sexually active persons will contract an STD by age 25.
• The estimated number of people living in the US with a viral STD is over 65 million.  Every year, there are at least 19 million new cases of STDs, many of which are incurable.
• Genital Herpes has infected 45million people ages 12 and older.  There is currently no cure for herpes.

"Simply put, condoms fail.  And condoms fail at a rate unacceptable for me as a physician to endorse them as a strategy to be promoted as meaningful AIDS protection."   Dr. Robert Renfield, chief of retro-viral research, Walter Reed Army Institute

"Saying the use of condoms is 'safe sex' is in fact playing Russian roulette.  A lot of people will die in this dangerous game."    Dr. Teresa Crenshaw, member of the U.S. Presidential AIDS Commission and past president of the American Association of Sex Educators

MYTH: If I've only been sexually active with one person, I can't get an STD.
FACT:  If that person has had any sexual contact with even one other person, you can get an STD.

MYTH: STDs are treatable and can always be seen or felt.
FACT:  Some STDs are treatable; however many are lifelong diseases, for which there is no cure.  Many STDs, for example Chlamydia, can cause a serious infection without you knowing, AND can be passed to another person.

MYTH:  If I use protection, I won't get an STD. 
FACT: Even if a condom is used every single time you have sex, you still are at risk for contracting an STD.

MYTH: As long as I don't have sexual intercourse, I can't get an STD.
FACT: You can get STDs from oral sex or any sexual contact or even kissing (Herpes 1).

We have a new program at the Crisis Pregnancy Center called "NO REGRETS" to equip young men and women with the information they need to know!  If you questions or would like to speak to someone or get more information on our NO REGRETS program, referrals for testing or counseling, call LaNell 1-760-568-2200 or 1-888-956-HELP or email answers@choiceline.org  or text 1-760-567-9085.  All inquiries held in the strictest confidence.